It’s time to let go of «I should be there by now,» and embrace what you have already accomplished.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t know about you, but I\u2019m so tired of putting this crazy amount of pressure on myself all the time.<\/p>\n
For as long as I can remember, I\u2019ve always had wildly high expectations of myself. The strange thing is, this pressure never really came from external sources. My parents, teachers, and friends have always been 100% supportive and never put pressure on me to be a certain way.<\/p>\n
But despite it all, I\u2019ve heaped and piled the pressure on myself to be successful, do things perfectly (the first time, of course), and generally have my life completely figured out.<\/p>\n
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\nIt\u2019s taken quite a lot of time (and plenty of life coaching) for me to release a lot of this internal pressure, but I\u2019ll be the first to admit that it still pops up from time to time.<\/p>\n
This summer, though, I\u2019ve decided that I\u2019m over it.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve made it my personal mission to do whatever it takes to release the mounds of stress I naturally put on myself, because it can be exhausting at best, and debilitating at worst.<\/p>\n
As I\u2019m going through my own personal pressure detox, I\u2019m noticing that many of my fellow millennials and coaching clients put this kind of pressure on themselves, too. In particular, I see people stress themselves out over figuring out their passion\u2014the thing (career, hobby, side hustle, etc.) they\u2019ll want to do forever and ever and never get sick of it.<\/p>\n
«I\u2019m already (insert any age between 21 to 65\u2014I hear this from people of all ages),» they\u2019ll say. «I should have figured out what I want to do with my life by now!»<\/p>\n
(God, I hate that word «should.» Let\u2019s agree to stop «shoulding» all over ourselves, \u2018kay?)<\/p>\n
So today I want to send a reminder to you, to my clients, and yeah, to myself, too.<\/p>\n
Whenever you feel the internal pressure mounting and you\u2019re feeling like you «should» be a certain place in your life by now, I want you to keep this one key thing in mind:<\/p>\n
Your decisions don\u2019t need to be permanent.<\/p>\n
This goes against most conventional wisdom that says you need to decide what you want to do when you\u2019re 18 or 19 so you can pick your college major, so you can get a job in that field, so you can work there for the next several decades.<\/p>\n
(Wow, that\u2019s a LOT of pressure to put on a teenager!)<\/p>\n
Because of this, people feel flakey, or self-critical, or like they\u2019re falling «behind» if they want to change their mind later on \u2026 and that\u2019s when they really start piling on the pressure to figure it all out immediately.<\/p>\n
If you ask yourself, «What\u2019s my passion? What do I want to do for the rest of my life?» you\u2019re most likely going to freeze up and shut down. That\u2019s a seriously loaded question that comes with a whole heck of a lot of pressure.<\/p>\n
Instead, start asking yourself, «What do I love doing right now? What could I spend a whole day doing and be perfectly happy? What actions, causes, people, or topics light me up and make me feel the most me?» That\u2019s a very different internal dialogue that feels spacious and free, instead of constricting and heavy.<\/p>\n
What you decide you want in your life might change, and that\u2019s okay\u2014it\u2019s great, in fact. Life would be pretty boring if your goals and desires never evolved. The key is to focus on what you love and what energizes you right now, and trust that the next step will reveal itself when the time is right.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s like that famous Martin Luther King, Jr., quote: «You don\u2019t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.»<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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